Wednesday, December 28, 2022
13 years
I think a lot about Lex. My life is good and I’m blessed with friends, family, my daughter, my son in law and my beautiful grandchildren. But Lex, Lex exists between the layers of my life, peeking around corners hovering overhead always just out of reach. There but not there, intangible and important, brushing past my face like whispers. You’d think after 13 years I’d be used to this but I know I will never get used to it. My life has grown around this loss, her death is carved into my soul, sometimes I feel like Lex and I are one and she lives on through me. My darling Lex, beautiful, vibrant, gifted and so much more, saying I miss you seems insufficient the words too simple to convey the emotions I feel but they are all I have so,
Lex I miss you we all do.
Sunday, December 25, 2022
If I Could Have 1 Hour With Lex
If I could have one hour to chat on a bench with Alexis, after 12 years what would we talk about? What would that 1 hour conversation consist of? That I would tell her how much I love her, how much she is missed and how much she has missed is obvious but, what else? My feelings, her feelings my worries her worries, my hopes her hopes, my dreams her dreams. Nothing concrete only wisps of smoke, mercury that I can’t grasp, vague foggy images without substance but with the illusion of substance. Something is ‘there ’, whether it is underneath or beside or above, it is ‘there’ That constant tantalizing and yet comforting feeling that she is near but not near. So, maybe I will sit on a park bench and conjure Lex up for the conversation that I am yearning to have with her.
Because I endlessly miss her in my life.
Monday, July 19, 2021
Just Not Here
- We finally managed a family get together, Covid has kept us apart for far too long. On this sunny warm Sunday we gathered under my big red umbrella on my deck for supper. I realized Lex, that you were with us. You were everywhere, you were in both our grandchildren’s names, you were in the name that as a 2 year old you created for your grandmother, Bobby Rose. You were in all the Turtle figurines placed around my garden, you were in my dog Turtle’s name, you were in our hearts, you were everywhere…you just weren’t here.
Monday, December 28, 2020
Gone 10 Years
It’s hard to believe that we lost Lex 10 years ago December 29, 2010. It still startles me when I think about her, that she’s really gone. They say loss gets easier with time but, it doesn’t, the memories are still strong and I have moments when thoughts of her death hit me so hard I can’t breathe and I am pulled back to the day she died like it was yesterday. I no longer try to imagine who she would have been or how she would be living her life, it’s pointless to do so and it hurts too much. Now I just think about her essence, her presence and her absence.
This year because of Covid we are unable to hold our annual dinner honouring Alexis where we are surrounded by family and friends and I will miss everyone. This year will be simple and quiet, a day spent, reflecting on, remembering and missing my beautiful daughter.
Sunday, July 12, 2020
What the Covid Virus is Stealing from us
Sunday, March 22, 2020
Learning to Dance in the Rain
Covid 19 or the Coronavirus is bigger than all of us, what is happening on our planet is unprecedented and difficult to believe and yet here we are, fighting for humanity, fighting for our health, fighting to keep our way of life. All other problems have faded away, the news is only reporting about this pandemic out of 195 countries in the world 149 so far are battling it. We are united in a common cause, to defeat this virus, ironically this is the first time in history that the entire world has ever been united in anything. This transcends politics, religions, race, economics and anything else that divides us. We are all at war with the same enemy an enemy that does not discriminate. We are all praying for the same outcome, that a cure will be found and we can go back to living our lives. But no one knows how long this will last, who will get ill, who will succumb and who will survive, when we wake up from this nightmare the world may look very different. Alexis was a very wise girl, during her battle with Cancer she learned that “you never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have”. We have no choice we must be strong, we must protect ourselves, our families, our friends, our colleagues, our neighbours. We must protect our senior citizens, the immune suppressed, the vulnerable the weak and above all else we must keep our humanity no matter how bad this outbreak gets.